I finally went to see a therapist tonight. I didn't want to go. I couldn't imagine what he would tell me that would really help.
He told me I am "hyper-sensitive." I am supposed to expect less, not think about things so much and not care so much. That is really all I got out of it. I don't expect I will go back for more...I am smart enough to get that message.
So forgive me if I don't seem to care. It's the "doctor's recommendation." I don't expect my family to change and don't care if they keep right on being who they are. See? I feel happier already.
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That's what 2nd opinions are for. You need to find someone that you connect with, that you can trust, and that helps you MOVE FORWARD rather than advising you to just spin your wheels in frustration. Keep looking; the answer is out there. True happiness & contentment are out there. Don't give up.
ReplyDeleteWell, I admit he and I would never become good friends, but I was listening. It didn't feel very good to be told I am too sensitive and that my expectations are too high, but he did make some valid points. I have always been reaching for something they aren't going to give me. It's time to stop expecting more and time to stop dwelling on everything. On the other side, I am going to stop being so worried about their feelings and voicing what I like or don't like when it happens.
DeleteSo I have to fill my needs elsewhere, and have less of them. Sadly, I haven't met very many people that have been able to survive my emotional void. (My poor husband and kids!)
If my family doesn't need me, then I will have to accept that. Maybe I will even convince myself to feel a tiny bit sorry for them...they obviously don't know what/who they are missing!
That said, I am not going back to counseling...at least for now.
BTW: thanks for the comments you make. I consider you a friend (that I've never met)!
I don't like your therapist.
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